Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight ... May 2026

Learn that being "nice"—which includes kindness, laughter, and vulnerability—is a position of strength, not weakness.

Focus on what you need (character, reliability, kindness) rather than what you think you should have. Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight ...

You may be lying to yourself or others about what you actually want. Learn that being "nice"—which includes kindness

Demanding specific physical traits (like height) is often a way to avoid real intimacy. and vulnerability—is a position of strength

Be upfront about your desire for marriage. Stop "playing along" with casual arrangements if you want a lifetime commitment.

McMillan argues that many women use defensiveness or anger as a shield.

Stop "playing house" or living in a fantasy mode.